The most important way to build a successful emotional relationship is to implement relationship standards. In this article, we want to explain to you the standards of a successful marital relationship in life so that you can have effective and extraordinary relationships using important tips for married life, and as always, in this article, we will experience how to implement this training with a few examples from real references.
As you know; knowing is the first step to transformation; I, “Jason Shahdoost,” believe that implementing what you know will deepen it.
Podcast Successful Marital Relationship in Life
Given that the points mentioned in this article are written in summary form, if you want to know more about married life, it is recommended that you listen to the Married Life Podcast.
Dos and Don’ts in a Successful Married or Emotional Life
It is interesting to know that the three basic principles of any emotional relationship that must be followed are very simple, but unfortunately, according to my numerous experiences, I have seen that they are not followed in many relationships.
The first principle: Physical contact is prohibited
Definition of physical contact: Any type of contact, whether from a man or a woman, that causes pain in the other party, whether this contact is in jest or in anger, is called physical contact.
This principle may seem very obvious and we all We know that physical contact is not appropriate, but it is interesting to know that in many emotional relationships there are physical contacts, of course, as is clear in the definition, we do not mean only very severe physical contacts, but also small ones.
Example 1: Mr. Alpha said in a meeting that my wife often pinches me as a joke and it hurts me, of course, jokes
Question: Is this behavior right or not?
Answer: Let’s remember that when we do something in a joking state, there is a very high probability that in a serious state, we will do it with a higher level of pressure. So I recommend that we be careful with physical jokes.
Principle Two: Verbal insults are prohibited
Definition of verbal insults: Any type of conversation that is outside the norms and structure of conventional conversation in society is considered verbal insults. Many relationships suffer from a lack of verbal respect and use inappropriate words to communicate.
Example 2: Ms. Beta: My husband uses very dirty words and jokes with me that I am embarrassed.
Mr. Alpha: Mr. Dr. “Jason Shahdoust”, believe me, I also say these words to many of my friends, and well, because I use them a lot, they have become part of my vocabulary. I think that Ms. should Accept
Question: Is this type of conversation effective?
Answer: This language may have a place in your business or among your friends, and if you don’t speak like this, you will get into trouble. But unless your wife is one of your friends outside of yours, remember, Mr. Alpha, that you need to speak to your wife with respect, of course, if you want your relationship to last long!
Principle Three: Separation and betrayal are prohibited
First of all, we must have two definitions of these two issues so that you can fully understand them;
- Definition of separation: Separation is any distance between emotional relationships due to disagreements.
- Definition of betrayal: Any departure from previously established commitments in an emotional relationship.
In many relationships, I have seen that as soon as one of the parties is upset, he leaves the scene, for example, he suddenly leaves the house or he does not talk at all or he hangs up the phone or says I can’t continue with you anymore and does not answer the phone for a few days and during this period of not answering, sometimes he may enter other relationships.
Ms. Beta asked a question in the meeting and said, “Dr. Shahdoust, whenever I get angry with him and, for example, I don’t answer, he pays more attention to me.
Question: Is this type of behavior effective in a relationship that we have a long-term view of and can it be a constructive factor?
Answer: Definitely not, separation and anger can have an effect in the short term and attract the other party’s attention, but in the long term, it will create indifference towards the relationship and your type of behavior. It’s coming.
What is the meaning of a healthy married life?
A healthy married life is like a healthy building, in a building the first step is to build its foundation. The foundation of a healthy relationship is adherence to the relationship standards mentioned above, so if you want your relationship to be healthy, you must first comply with the above.
Be careful that the above points should be observed in anger, sadness, fear and everywhere, not just in the special and happy part of your life.
Characteristics of a successful married life
According to the latest research, a successful married life, in addition to observing the standards, the following points also need to be implemented.
1. Confidence in married life
To have a successful relationship, a foundation of confidence must be built. Confidence in the relationship allows both people to focus on their shared desires with a sense of security.
2. Identifying the desires of both parties.
Remember, every person in this world is full of desires. Entering a relationship does not mean that we no longer have desires.
It is interesting to know that many people forget their initial desires after two years of being in a relationship.
3. Respect in a Successful Marital Relationship
Respect plays a fundamental role in a healthy relationship. Remember, respect is very different from fear. If your partner respects you, they will do things for you that they would never do for you through force or fear.
4. Effective Communication in a Marital Relationship
Effective communication is one of the most important parts of a strong and productive relationship, which we will definitely discuss in other articles in a special way. Effective communication means; Complete the conversation and reach an agreement with your emotional partner.
Solutions to Improve a Successful Married Life
If you ask me, “Jason Shahdoost,” what is your suggestion for building a relationship or successful married life, I will tell you: First of all, check whether you are doing the 3 basic principles of the relationship or not?
- If you are doing the basic principles 100% of the time, of course not even 90% of the time, now is the time to start building the 4 things: trust, achieving the desired, respect and effective communication.
- If you were able to build these 4 steps correctly, know that you are exactly in the right place in your relationship and only by maintaining these steps can you be sure that this relationship will be long-term.
- Remember, always and always, having a professional consultation or coach can increase the speed of your achievement of your goals and also your awareness of your relationship.
Be happy, in love and abundant.
Dr. Jason Shahdoost