Start with the pattern

What keeps happening, even when the topic changes? Describe the sequence without assigning blame. Note what usually happens first, how each person responds, and what the conversation looks like afterward.

Name the need

Under the complaint, what need is asking to be understood? Write it in one sentence. A need can be clarity, dependable communication, respect, time, reassurance, or room to make a decision.

Check trust in behavior

Trust is not only a feeling or a promise. What observable behavior supports it? What behavior repeatedly weakens it? Separate what is changing from what is being promised.

Clarify boundaries and control

Which part belongs to your choice? Which part would require the other person to choose differently? Write one boundary as an action you can take, not a rule that controls another person.

Before a major decision

What facts do you know? What remains unresolved? What would you need to observe or discuss before choosing your next step? You do not need to decide whether to stay or leave in this worksheet.

Your next practical step

Choose one conversation, question, boundary, or observation that would create useful information. Set a review point so reflection becomes action rather than endless analysis.

A practical next step

If you want to clarify how this applies to your situation, you can begin with a Zero Session.

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